I work with tweens, helping them with anxiety and apprehension. Many girls have trouble knowing who they are, what they think, what they consider important or valuable. Like reeds on the waters edge, they move which ever way the wind blows, barely rooted.
What do you see?
What do you like?
What do you love?
Stand firm, don’t just ground yourself, root yourself in nutritious soil. What is in the nutritious soil?
See the world from your perspective. Don’t desire to be seen, as an exercise in seeing.
Exercise: Say, “I think…”, (not wonder what would he thinks, she thinks, they think.) If someone doesn’t treat you respectfully, or value you – do not seek their affirmation, release them from your orbit (physically and mentally). If you are wondering, do they like me, ask – do I like them? Do I respect their values, the way they treat people, what they do in their free time? Notice your own perceptions and give them importance. How do you experience things?
Know what you think.
Exercise – start with a Pinterest board, keep it private and collect things you find compelling, beautiful, inspiring.
Only things you have control over, do you put your attention.
Don’t look for others consensus become the subject, not the object. Creation vs. creature – people judging you. See yourself as the judge. Be self-determine.
Occupy the first person! This is what we do when we meditate. When you play the social game, that can override your won experience and judgement. Develop own game to your own taste